Moving Past Perfect: How Perfectionism May Be Holding Back Your Kids (and You!) and What You Can Do About It

Does your child or teen . . .

• Constantly compare themselves to others?
• Hesitate to take risks for fear of failing or get discouraged easily and often?
• Berate themselves and feel very unhappy when they make mistakes?
• Experience frequent stress/anxiety or expect too much of themselves or others?

Perfectionism is not about doing our best, the struggle for excellence, or the healthy striving for high goals. Perfectionism is about believing that if we can just do something perfectly, other people will love and accept us: and if we can't, we'll never be good enough.

Perfectionism is a burden that takes a heavy toll. Personal relationships are strained, intimacy is elusive, work seems overwhelming, creativity slows, physical exhaustion occurs, perfectionism is painful and debilitating: a no-win situation.

As parents, we influence our children's emotional development. The bad news - our own attitudes about love, acceptance, success, and failure can create an environment that promotes perfectionism.

The good news - we can make positive changes that will enrich our children's lives: and our own.

In this update to the original groundbreaking edition, Tom Greenspon explains perfectionism, where it comes from (including outside influences), and what to do about it. He describes a healing process for transforming perfectionism into healthy living practices & self-acceptance.

If you think your child may be a perfectionist; if you've ever wondered if you're a perfectionist; this book is for you.

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