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No Bullshit Therapy: How to engage people who don’t want to work with you

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Jeff Young Australian author

  • No Bullshit Therapy
  • No Bullshit Therapy
    Do you have clients who do not want to be helped, who don’t trust you or who don’t want to change? Then No Bullshit Therapy is for you!

164 pages
2023
ISBN: 9781032408385

Do you have clients who do not want to be helped? Clients who don’t trust you, your profession, or your service? Clients who don’t want to change despite your best efforts?

Then No Bullshit Therapy (NBT) is for you! Most simply, NBT is about being authentic.

Many people are cajoled, pressured, or mandated to see therapists, counsellors, and other helpers. Hence, they are reluctant, suspicious, and resistant to being helped. This puts professionals in the difficult position of trying to help someone who does not want to be helped. To make things worse, there are few practice models designed to engage people who don’t want to be engaged.

NBT creates a context for mutual honesty and directness in working relationships. Creating a context for mutual honesty and directness can be refreshingly effective, especially with people who are suspicious of counselling or distrustful of the counsellor. When combined with warmth and care, honesty and directness can enhance co-operation, connection, and trust, especially if the practitioner avoids jargon and acknowledges constraints to the work. NBT is ideal for working with people who:

  • Don’t like therapy or the idea of therapy (even if they’ve never had it)
  • Don’t trust warm fuzzy “do-gooders” or “psychologisers”
  • Are suspicious of services because they have experienced trauma and have had abusive institutional experiences or unsatisfactory treatment in the past
  • Don’t see themselves as a client, don’t agree with the referrer’s description of them or their problems, and appear to not want to change

Practical and engaging, this book is an essential guide for therapists, counsellors, and other allied-health professionals who are looking for a more effective way to connect with reluctant clients and ensure they get the support they need. It may also help you create more robust relationships at work and at home.

Table of Contents

Chapter 1: Introduction to No Bullshit Therapy

1.1 No Bullshit Therapy Clinical Guidelines: At a glance

1.2 Aim of this book

1.3 Notes on language

1.4 Notes on clinical examples

1.5 How this book is organised

1.6 References

Chapter 2: The Theory of Bullshit

2.1 Bullshit: History and definitions

2.2 Loss of faith in political leaders in the world of spin, fake news, and post-truth

2.3 The loss of faith in health professionals

2.4 References

Chapter 3: The Development of No Bullshit Therapy

3.1 References

Chapter 4: Therapy-Lovers and Therapy-Haters

4.1 Other models designed to engage therapy-haters

4.2 Engagement: How is it different with therapy-haters?

4.3 References

Chapter 5: NBT Clinical Guidelines and Practice Notes for Working with Therapy-Haters

5.1 Creating a context to promote mutual honesty and directness

  1. Establish a mandate: How to work, what to work on
  2. Marry honesty and directness with warmth and care
  3. Be upfront about constraints
  4. Avoid jargon

5.2 References

Chapter 6: NBT Clinical Guidelines: Practice Notes for Working with Therapy-Lovers

6.1 Creating a context to promote mutual honesty and directness with therapy-lovers

  1. Establishing a mandate when working with therapy-lovers
  2. Marrying honesty and directness with warmth and care when working with therapy-lovers
  3. Being upfront about constraints when working with therapy-lovers
  4. Avoiding jargon when working with therapy-lovers References

Chapter 7: NBT First Session – with Commentary

7.1 The ideal No Bullshit therapist

7.2 References

Chapter 8: NBT Safety Strategies

8.1 References

Chapter 9: NBT Tools

9.1 Self-supervision for workers Self-supervision for clients

9.2 The NBT hand for making everyday requests

9.3 References

Chapter 10: NBT, Power, and Social Identity

10.1 Power

10.2 Social identity

10.3 References

Chapter 11: NBT, Trauma, Blame, and Shame

11.1 NBT session transcript with neuropsychological commentary

11.2 NBT client commentary

11.3 References

Chapter 12: NBT with Couples, Families, and at Work

12.1 Couples

12.2 Families

12.3 Work meetings

12.4 Saying the unsayable in the workplace

12.5 References

Chapter 13: Concluding Comments

13.1 References