Steven Laurent, Ross G Menzies
Based on their ground-breaking book The Anger Fallacy, leading psychologists Ross Menzies and Steven Laurent have put together 35 simple, practical exercises to help rid your life of anger. In this workbook you will learn to:
Using this workbook, either on your own or with a therapist, you can practice the anger management concepts from The Anger Fallacy, and learn to master anger, the most toxic of emotions.
About the Authors
Acknowledgements
Preface
Exercise 1: Anger Monitoring
Exercise 2: Identifying ‘Shoulds’
Exercise 3: Finding Alternatives to ‘Shoulds’
Exercise 4: Recognising the Arbitrariness and Silliness of Anger
Exercise 5: Finding Humour
Exercise 6: Mea Culpa — Apologising for Your Anger
Exercise 7: Explaining the Origin of Your ‘Shoulds’
Exercise 8: Explaining the Origin of Someone Else’s ‘Shoulds’
Exercise 9: Cultivating Gratitude
Exercise 10: Overcoming the Need for Fairness
Exercise 11: What Went Well Today?
Exercise 12: Identifying the Costs of Your Anger
Exercise 13: Identifying How Anger Interferes With Problem-Solving
in Real Situations
Exercise 14: Nonuniversality of Ethics — Differences in law
Exercise 15: Nonuniversality of Ethics — the Case of Killing
Exercise 16: The Ugliness of Other People’s Anger
Exercise 17: The Ugliness of Your Own Anger
Exercise 18: Anger in Situations Beyond Your Control
Exercise 19: Your Own Anger in Situations Beyond Your Control
Exercise 20: Mindfulness — Living in The Moment
Exercise 21: Does the Scene Really Matter? Using the Memoirs Test
Exercise 22: Using a Responsibility Pie
Exercise 23: Change Your Attempts to Influence Those Around You
Exercise 24: In Other People’s Words
Exercise 25: Getting Into the Skin of the Other Person
Exercise 26: Compassion Visualisation
Exercise 27: Practising Patience
Exercise 28: Understanding Other People’s Interests and Activities
Exercise 29: Identifying With Both Sides
Exercise 30: The Egocentricity of Anger
Exercise 31: Anger as Frustrated Craving
Exercise 32: Being Servile for One Hour
Exercise 33: See Miscreants as Fascinating or Humorous Machines
Exercise 34: Look After the State of Your Organism
Exercise 35: Who Do You Wish To Become?