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Jennifer Shannon, Doug Shannon
The essential go-to workbook for shy and socially anxious teens—now fully revised and updated with skills for dealing with social media anxiety and “social perfectionism.”
Do you feel shy when meeting new people? Do you freeze up when speaking in front of a group? Do you worry about what others think of you? If you struggle with shyness or social anxiety, you may try to avoid situations that cause you to feel uneasy. The problem is, avoiding stuff can also lead to missing out―on friendships, fun, and opportunities. If you’re ready to stop hiding behind your shyness and start enjoying everything life has to offer, this workbook is your guide.
The fun and easy worksheets and exercises in this fully revised and updated second edition of The Shyness and Social Anxiety Workbook for Teens will show you how to handle any kind of social situation with confidence, so you can connect with others and create great friendships. Based in proven-effective cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), the skills in this guide will also help you speak up for yourself when you need to, and stop dreading situations that put you on the spot—whether you’re called upon in class, interviewing for a job, or introducing yourself to new people.
This new edition also includes tons of tips to help you navigate the world of social media; and self-compassion skills to help you stop comparing yourself to others, deal constructively with criticism, and stop worrying so much about what other people think. Most importantly, you’ll learn how to move beyond “social perfectionism,” and set realistic goals for yourself.
So, why let shyness and social anxiety run your life? With this workbook, you can discover a more confident, outgoing you.
Introduction 1
Chapter 1 Socially Anxious Are You Missing Out? 3
Chapter 2 Why Me? The Origins of Social Anxiety 7
Chapter 3 Chain Reaction Automatic Thoughts, Anxious Feelings, and Avoidance 14
Chapter 4 Slowing it Down Recognizing Your Own Chain Reactions 24
Chapter 5 Disastrous Distortions Don't Believe Every Thought You Think 33
Chapter 6 Social Perfectionism The Path to Nowhere 51
Chapter 7 What Was I Thinking? Two Ways to Test Your Thoughts 61
Chapter 8 Talking Back to Your Thoughts Training Your Brain to Challenge and Cope 72
Chapter 9 To the Rescue! Coping with Criticism-Real, Imagined, and Self-inflicted 78
Chapter 10 Building the Ladder From Avoidance to Action 86
Chapter 11 Charting Success Preparing for and Evaluating Exposures 98
Chapter 12 Bella's ladder Exposure, Exposure, Exposure 113
Chapter 13 Troubleshooting What to Do When You Get Stuck 137
Chapter 14 Above and Beyond How Mistakes Make You Stronger 145
Conclusion 149
Appendices: For Teens and Their Parents or Guardians 151
"A fabulous tool. One of the best books I’ve read on teen social anxiety!"
- Lisa M. Schab, LCSW, psychotherapist, and author of eighteen self-help books, including The Anxiety Workbook for Teens and the guided anxiety journal for teens, Put Your Worries Here
"With the second edition of her book, Jennifer Shannon has taken all the amazing tips and insights from the first edition and put them into the media-saturated context of teens today. The engaging illustrations and easy-to-understand tools make this an approachable resource for even the most anxious of teens."
- Litsa R. Tanner, MS, MFT, clinical director and cofounder of the Santa Rosa Center for Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, and adjunct professor in counseling psychology at the University of San Francisco
"This workbook is fantastic! If you read it carefully, collaborate with the material, and do the exercises, you will get better. It’s easy to follow, with wonderful illustrations and relatable stories. Social anxiety is not a life sentence. Jennifer Shannon’s book will walk you through the steps you need to take to overcome your fears and feel comfortable in social situations."
- Ken Goodman, LCSW, creator of The Anxiety Solution Series, and author of The Emetophobia Manual
"Jennifer Shannon, an expert in the treatment of anxiety, provides a practical and engaging update of The Shyness and Social Anxiety Workbook for Teens. She offers a straightforward and evidence-based approach with strategies that are all eminently doable. The chapter on social perfectionism—on overcoming the belief that one can’t ever make mistakes—is particularly compelling. And, as a bonus, illustrations highlighting the key points further enhance the content."
- Mary K. Alvord, PhD, psychologist, and coauthor of Conquer Negative Thinking for Teens and Resilience Builder Program for Children and Adolescents
"I loved the first edition, and this update is even better! Jennifer Shannon offers a clear guide to undoing the inhibiting effects social anxiety, and social media, can have on teens making their way in school and the world. The illustrations speak thousands of words! She charts a direct path to leaving shyness and loneliness behind. Let her be your guide."
- David Carbonell, PhD, creator of www.anxietycoach.com, and author of Panic Attacks Workbook, The Worry Trick, Fear of Flying Workbook, and Outsmart Your Anxious Brain
"The new edition of The Shyness and Social Anxiety Workbook for Teens is a gift for teens and therapists alike. Jennifer Shannon presents evidence-based cognitive behavioral principles and practices with empathy and warmth, and the dynamic, comic book-like illustrations really bring the concepts to life. Teens who complete this workbook are sure to understand their social anxiety better—and how to move through it to a more fulfilling life."
- Seth J. Gillihan, PhD, clinical psychologist, and coauthor of CBT Deck for Kids and Teens
"This book is superb! No longer will teens need to suffer with anxiety and be on the sidelines of life. Full of clear, effective, and engaging strategies, this workbook will show teens exactly what to do to overcome their fears and shyness, and will reassure them that they are not alone. Truly, every teen struggles with these issues to varying degrees. All teenagers would benefit from reading this book."
- Tamar Chansky, PhD, author of Freeing Your Child from Anxiety and Freeing Yourself from Anxiety
